"Connecting - Three Things You Must Know" by life coach Mysty Cain
As someone who is naturally a shy person, my work as a life coach is constantly stretching me outside of my comfort zone. I don’t really like to walk into a room full of strangers – yet I do it multiple times per week. I don’t like to speak in public – yet I am preparing for a breakfast speech to be given tomorrow. Even crazier is that I have been referred to as the premiere coach to teach people how to connect with others and yet, if given the choice, I often prefer to be alone. Isn’t this a funny world?
I was leaving my office this morning and noticed a young woman entering the building on the opposite side of the stairs. Although she was less than two feet from me I would not have even paid attention to the fact that I smiled and said good morning, but for the fact that the young woman stared straight ahead and moved quickly by without a word. I was struck by the fact that people often pay really good money to learn how to connect, yet the answers are often so very simple. Your connecting philosophy should begin with the truth that connecting is a “mirror of your life”.
Here are three things you must know about connecting:
1. If you want to be open to connecting with new, unexpected people, places and things, then you must make yourself available. This means smiling and saying hello to people you encounter while out and about. This means saying yes to an invitation that you otherwise might have shot down because it is not something you traditionally do. This means accepting that business trip to a little town in Colorado even though god only knows what you will find to do there once the work is done.
2. You must know that most connecting is hard work. I was reading a recent article entitled, “Twenty Five Places to Meet New People” and, quite frankly, I found myself tired from reading the suggestions. I mean do we really have time for things like taking a new class, joining a singles group, adding a new hobby to our schedule or actually going to the gym? Of course not! We should be able to meet and connect with new people on our commute to work…that is what we have time for and can commit to.
3. The computer is, for the most part, a lonely wasteland of dead-end meet-ups. I literally cringe when I have clients tell me they are looking for Mr. Right on sites like match.com. While I would like to extend those sites the benefit of the doubt in thinking that surely someone has met Mr. Right on there, none of those “someones” are my clients or any of the people I talk to across the country! Meeting someone on the computer is “great” in a sense that you can pick your time, how you feel, what you look like and generally create an artificial environment in which most all conditions are right for meeting. Yet you are surprised when the relationship does not withstand the conditions of the real world. The other downside to computer connecting is that most people are imbued with a general sense of distrust for things (and people) they can’t see with their own eyes. Why exacerbate the sense of distrust by committing your most personal choice, finding a mate, to the anonymous world of cyber-connecting.
Connecting with people, places and opportunities can be one of the most exciting ways to live your life. Imagine going through each day with the knowledge that you go nowhere by accident, that each turn may introduce a new adventure, relationship or success into your life. If you are living a closed, negative life, then don’t be shocked if your connection opportunities are limited. Today is the day you can make connecting a reality in your life simply by acknowledging that how you connect is a mirror of how you are living life. Ask yourself, “What am I reflecting?”
ABOUT Mysty Cain
Mysty Cain is an ultra-success and personal life coach, consultant, author, and speaker. She is president of Capacity Living, a company specializing in motivating national clients to create amazing lives of power, passion and brilliance. Mysty has helped clients nationwide to develop the picture of their ideal personal and professional lives using the steps and principles outlined in her popular workbook, “The Take Charge Challenge.”
Mysty’s passion is writing and speaking. She prides herself in consistent development of articles on topics ranging from personal growth to parenting to creating relationships. She travels nationally delivering high-energy, inspirational, and humorous talks based upon the same common-sense principles that have served clients from housewives to executives.
Prior to starting her coaching practice, Mysty worked for 10 years as a Paralegal. She is currently active as the Program Chair for the Nevada Professional Coaches Association and in the Las Vegas Chamber of Commerce President’s Club.
Originally from Texas, Mysty attended the University of Las Vegas Nevada to obtain her Bachelor’s Degree in Psychology. She received her coach certification through the Coach Training Alliance, and continues her education through Coach U. Mysty presently resides in Las Vegas, Nevada, with her husband, two daughters and a one-eared Cocker Spaniel, “Van Gogh”.
For more information on Mysty and her company’s products and services, please visit: www.livetocapacity.com today!
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